The Female Juggler
You are the power source for everything that goes on around you; anything connected to you or relying on you must be fueled properly.
July 02, 2020
The Female Juggler: Work, Family, Self
We live in an incredible, modern age of social acceptance and support for females in the workplace. However, regardless of the immense support, many of us find the juggling act to be a pressure and burden on our personal lives. There are only twenty-four hours in a day, and it seems that the days keep getting shorter and shorter.
Time and its Management
“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.”
One of the most difficult things about this life is realizing that each moment is fleeting and precious; this epiphany is known to hit hardest for those in the second half of their lives, but we all feel it a little bit every day. What, then, is the solution to a severe deficiency of the most important thing in life? Time waits for no one - not even the most successful female business entrepreneur!
Scheduling and Organization
One of the simplest ways to get a handle on how your time is used is by taking a look at a normal day for yourself. What tasks could be streamlined or optimized to run at its potential? Take a look at what you spend the most time on each day, and ask yourself: will I be happy with this priority in ten years? How is each moment of your day fulfilling you and bringing you closer to your life goals? Perhaps you need to spend some time clearing off your different plates: work, home, and personal.
There are a great many tools that can be used to aid you in your search for better organization in your daily life. Many women choose to use monthly planners, desk calendars, daily spreads, or even a bullet journal for more artistic types. The key to your organizational tool is that you must use it daily - preferably multiple times per day. This book or spread is a place to keep yourself accountable and on task, so refer to it often!
There’s nothing more sobering than arriving at the end of a day only to wonder how you got there so quickly. Most of us get caught up in the rush and bustle of the day that we forget to absorb and appreciate what’s around us; if you find this to be true for yourself, try to set aside some time for mindful behaviours, like meditation or yoga. The more we intentionally stop to be a present being in this world, the more observant we will become as individuals.
“Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.”
At the end of the day, we spend the last waking moments with our loved ones: children, family, and our spouse. It’s unfortunate, then, that they are usually the first to feel neglect when juggling life becomes a struggle. It takes a lot of effort to balance everything in life, even for working men; however, as women, some of us have deep-seated bonds with our children that we find hard to displace from nine to five. It’s important to remember: just because you aren’t with your family members, doesn’t mean you aren’t showing them you care.
Every individual is different, and alone time with your oldest child will be very different from that with your youngest. Time spent with your spouse should be geared towards them, and theirs towards you. The best way to show you care about your family and friends is to set aside a special time that is reserved just for them! Get out of the house with your spouse and hire a babysitter (double points if they clean up for you, too)! Plan a game night and team up with a different child each time. One-on-one time helps to nurture bonds and keep everyone connected and up to date.
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Many women often express that they feel much like a battery, where life’s difficulties drain them and they have difficulty recharging. Those of us who are perpetually running on empty find it easy to snap; unfortunately, the brunt of this frustration can be expelled on those we care about most. It is for this reason that self-care is such an important part of maintaining successful juggling skills. As the saying goes, “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” If you feel drained, all of your efforts will be made at a fraction of your full potential.
Depending on your personality, you can select any type of activity you desire. If you are an artsy type of individual, kill two birds with one stone by starting a self-illustrated bullet journal! If you find that your spirits are lifted by music, take some time each day to sit quietly with your favourite playlist. Some women are greatly energized by nature and activity - perhaps you could take an early morning stroll or jog to help prepare yourself for the day.
The most important part of self-care is that it be just for you. There should be no agenda in satisfying anyone else for this time you’ve set aside; you are recharging your own batteries, not your family’s. In order for self-care to be effective, it must become a lifestyle - set aside time each day for your activity and pen it into your schedule if you have to! Never schedule things during your self-care time, no matter how important they seem.
You are the power source for everything that goes on around you; anything connected to you or relying on you must be fueled properly. Prioritize self-care, relationships, and time management - you’ll be surprised at how much you can accomplish with these three tenants at the centre of all you do. Now, get out there and show the world that you can.